As parents during this intense and exciting time on Earth, we accepted and/or chose an extremely important job. We are guiding the next caretakers of the Earth and evolution of humanity.
Our children are growing up in a world where they are faced with challenges unlike those we have ever seen. The world is literally at their fingertips, and although this has great opportunity when applied correctly, it also brings constant distraction and stimulation, therefore pulling them away from connecting with Nature and looking inward and knowing who they are.
Not only this, but with climate change, a contaminated food chain, toxic water, questionable vaccines and out dated school programs, it has never been more important for us as parents to be “awake.”
Because the truth is, we can thrive here if we are living our lives by heart-centered decisions that are led by our intuition, and not by the lies and propaganda that we have been told.
And yes, it may seem impossible to not get caught in the traps, but when we teach our children awareness, and allow their “awakened selves” to shine through, they will be aware of the traps and will be able to see them for what they are. When we are aware, we are impossible to trap.
And essentially, we will be creating the peaceful, joyous Earth that we all came here to create.
A misconception that I have noticed around our children commonly known as the Indigo’s, starseeds, etc., is that they are automatically “tuned in” and kind or that they would never do or say something rude or questionable.
But what I have experienced with my oldest son, Shep, is that, yes, he is incredibly sensitive, and he is “tuned in”, but he is also clearing SO much old karma and re-balancing back to his Highest Expresssion of himself in this lifetime, that he has been susceptible to all kinds of interference and questionable behaviour.
Shep is, in his Divine Nature, a sweetie. He loves to hug and snuggle, but he also would experience intense and erratic mood swings. You never knew what kind of day you were going to have with him. His highs were high – loving, jokey, and creative. And his lows were low – brooding, angry, sulky, withdrawn. Never mean but constantly unpredictable.
As a parent, it can be heartbreaking to see your child in this unhappy little body and know that they are in there, but how do you get to them?
It was also heartbreaking and disappointing when we would hear of something completely out of character that he had done, because you just knew that that wasn’t really him.
And afterwards, he always felt awful, but he could barely remember doing it. It was as if he had no control over himself. He struggled to communicate or give any explanation, as there really wasn’t one that he knew of.
Because he really didn’t know, beause it wasn’t really the “true” Shep. His energy body was so influenced by energetic cords from past lives and outer stimulation’s (and we live on a secluded farm), that the real Shep was unable to shine through and be in control all of the time.
So how do we guide our children into the Highest expressions of themselves?
Energetic Cord Clearing
This simple practice has worked wonders for my older kids as they seem to have come into this life with a lot of old baggage to clear out. My article “An Empowering Cord Cutting Exercise for Children”gives an easy technique for doing so, or you can visit an energy worker/healer who can help.
I have found with my kids that explaining how energy works has been extremely empowering for them because understanding how energy works is understanding how EVERYTHING works.
That essentially, everything you “put out there” will come back to you, and that everything you do to others you are doing to yourself.
That energy always attracts energy of the same frequency or vibration, and when we have a “high” vibration, we attract other people and experiences with a high vibration as well. These include love and joy, kindness, compassion, and vitality.
I often ask my kids, “what are you feeding?” Which energy pathway are you focusing on and giving energy to? What we focus on, we strengthen.
Simply knowing how energy works awakens our children to the truth that we are powerful beings, and that they always have control over their own energy.
And when things don’t always go their way?
“It’s All For You”
These four little words relieve a whole lot of pressure. Because no matter what, the experience was meant to teach you something and help you grow into who you are meant to become. I often ask my kids after something happened, such as, “what did you learn?”
The importance of looking for the lesson is life-altering. We begin to trust Life, because we know that it is always looking out for our best interest. And when we acknowledge and look for the lesson, Life will not have to repeat it.
“You are Already Good”
Not long ago, when we were going through a major shift and purging, Shep’s behaviour was hitting an all time unpredictability.
Whoever he happened to be around at the time, he became. He always joined in and seemed to have no self control.
After a certain incident at school, he came home crying, “Help me be good! I want to be good! I don’t know how!”
I hugged him, and the only words that I could think to tell him were, “You are already good. You have always been good. You just have to believe it. I will help you, but I can’t do it for you. You have to believe it yourself.”
Shep made a decision that day to be true to himself, and his willpower shifted his entire energy field. Although we had been clearing constantly, he had to reach a level of maturity and awareness where he could let it go and stand strong in himself.
He changed who he was hanging around with at school as he could recognize their influence. I told him, “You can still play with them as long as they are behaving in a way that is true to you. And when they are not, walk away. You do not have to join in.”
I have to say, Shep’s older sister, Summer, has been a wonderful teacher of this lesson. At ten years old, she has an ability of always being aligned with who she is. She can simply observe from a neutral standpoint and never get carried away and join in.
We did a lot of them. We fine tuned them to project what Shep was wanting most of all; to trust himself, and for his family to be able to trust him as well.
Shep wrote them out and we placed them where he could see them everyday as a reminder to help solidify new beliefs into his being.
They were, “I am good. I am strong. I love myself. I can trust myself to always do what is true for me. My family can trust me too.”
I did constant reminders to him when he would step out the door for school, “be strong in who you are”, or “you will remember who you are”.
Eating Clean, High Vibration Food
What we take into our bodies has to match the vibration that we are encouraging. Therefore, as little processed food as possible, lots of organic fruits and veggies, if possible, and lots of water. My kids have always been exceptionally thirsty during these shifts, as we are moving a lot of energy and as we are mostly made of water, keeping hydrated is essential. Shep still occasionally craves meat, but I always tell my kids, “Listen to your bodies”, so we ensure that the meat that is eaten has been ethically raised, which for Shep, happens to be right here on our farm.
Connect with the Earth
Plant a garden or a planter box with your child. Develop a relationship with Nature. Mother Earth is here for us as we are here for her. We form a connection and an interaction by showing respect and kindness to all beings. Set an example by stepping around the bugs, hugging the trees, and giving thanks to Mother Earth for the food that you eat or the home that you live in.
I like to ask, “What does Nature have to teach me today?”
You will soon find Nature responding to you and “seeking you out.” Because as we change the way we look at things, the things we look at will change.
One of the greatest gifts that we can teach our children is that magic is real and is around us at all times. Encourage your child to help Nature with something as simple as setting up a colorful bowl of water with stones for the bees and butterflies to land on while they drink.
My children and I do regular garbage pick ups when we are out and about. I always tell them, “Don’t expect somebody else to do it. If everybody picked up garbage everytime they seen it, what a different world this would be. Be kind to Mother Earth. She feels everything you do and she’ll thank you in many ways.” This simple lesson will instill responsibility for the world around them and hopefully a proactive approach to Life as they grow up.
So many have the attitude, “it’s not my garbage, why should I pick it up?”
Well it’s not Mother Earth’s either, so pick it up! Your fellow species dumped it there, so take responsibility for it.
Make Self-Love a Daily Routine
Our children need to feel love for themselves if they are to heal and shine in their Highest Expression. Every night at bed, and every morning when they wake up, I have my kids look into a mirror and say “I love you.” Have them look straight into their own eyes. Encourage them to go farther and give themselves compliments such as , “I love how unique you are”, or “You are so kind to others, you really are making this world a better place” or “You are important and are bringing light to this world.”
Lets face it, the days will go by regardless, so we may as well love ourselves and make the choice to be happy with who we are.
By far, one of the fastest emotions to shift energy to a higher vibration. In the morning, they can thank their bed for a good night sleep or they can thank a pet for their love and comfort. There are literally opportunities for gratitude everywhere we look. And when we are appreciative for what we have, we open our energy pathways to more things to be grateful for. These are the basics that will spark an awakening and cultivate fulfillment and contentment.
“Own your Weirdness”
Afraid of getting picked on, Shep was hiding his interests and his unique qualities that make him special. I told him, “the things that make you weird are your gifts to the world. These are the things that you need to be most proud of.”
We come into this world with gifts, and we are meant to share them. But this can be hard when we are living in a world of conformity and judgement where just being yourself takes great courage.
This hits a personal cord with me, as I have just been recently learning and owning this lesson myself. I can now speak from experience that everything that I was hiding because I was scared of not being accepted, were actually my most special, helpful gifts to the world.
Encourage your child daily, and let them know that all amazing things in this world were, at one time, weird.
Is Shep still getting teased? Of course, as he goes to a public school. Shep is learning that people will always have something to say to those who stand out. But he now knows that he has the choice to let it bother him. He also knows that it is the most insecure children that tease and bully others, so he actually feels compassion in knowing that these children need love the most and are not feeling it. And it’s not that all of these kids come from “troubled” homes either. It’s just that they simply do not understand the basics of energy, because if they knew better, they would do better. When we are truly loving and kind with ourselves, we cannot hurt others, as it simply will not match our vibration. If they understood what they are feeding and bringing back upon themselves, as energy always attracts energy of the same vibration, they would behave quite differently.
I also have Shep do cord cutting with anyone who upsets him, as well as a forgiveness exercise.
I have him imagine that person standing in front of him. Then I have him tell that person everything that he would like to say to them. Let the person really have it, get it out. Then he forgives them and thanks them for the lesson. Then we ask a Spirit guide to cut any energetic cords that may be left. This way there is no “charge” left between them, and Shep feels strong.
Shep looked at me like I was crazy the first time that I told him to thank a particular someone who had been rude to him. But then we discussed how he had now learned what it feels like to be judged, and that he would be more compassionate to others because he knows how it feels.
Bullies are teachers. “Bad” experiences are teachers. Have your child ask, “What am I supposed to learn from this?”
It is important to point out that we do not have to agree with what someone did to forgive them. We are actually helping ourselves and taking back our power when we forgive.
Our children need to remember their power and their strength. And again, when things don’t go the way we thought they should, we have a choice to learn something from it and move on.
If your child is unhappy with their own previous behaviour, have them do the forgiveness exercise with themselves. They can also place anyone in front of themselves that they would like to apologize to. This will clear and shift energy and allow your child to move forward stronger in their own being.
With the advice from a wise, psychic friend of mine, I also had Shep listening to binaural beats, which help to develop pathways in the brain and balance energy. There are lots to choose from on youtube, and I let Shep listen to them and choose which ones he liked. For about a month straight, he fell asleep to them and he would listen to them as soon as he got home from school. His “beats” he called them, helped him feel calm and “happy”. They were also a catalyst for clearing, and Shep did reach an all time high of dreams during this time. A lot of his dreams were past life memories coming up to clear, and they were not always pleasant. But after going through it, he is much lighter now. Comfort your child through these times, listen to them, and don’t tell them it is just their imagination, but let them know that they don’t have to be afraid and that it can’t hurt them.
I have always been very honest with my kids about what is going on, and to them, it’s not really a surprise. Actually, it makes perfect sense. They know that they don’t have to attach to what is clearing, they can just watch it go. It isn’t always pretty, but it is leaving them.
It was during this time that Shep was also having lots of pain in his third eye and crown chakra areas. With the advice from my same friend, a dab of Vetiver essential oil was really helpful when placed on these areas. But other grounding, earthy essential oils would help as well, and there are many to choose from, so go with what feels best for you. Some include frankincense, patchouli, sandalwood, lavender, to name a few.
A different friend was having the same issues with her children, and she found that a glass of water with a teaspoon of Himalayan salt and a splash of lemon juice was helpful for easing the pain as well (this is also a great detox recipe).
Limit the Gadgets
While it is necessary for our children to know technology and be able to use it, it does have to be limited. I can just “feel” their energy become imbalanced when they have been in front of a screen for too long.
Remind your children that the world around them is real. Nature, people, animals, their family. Make them aware that they are being sucked into something that isn’t real. Encourage them to engage with the world around them. Play a game. Go for a walk. Notice what you see/hear/smell around you. Engage their senses. Invite them into the kitchen and cook a healthy meal together. Discuss the ingredients that you are using.
Limit your social media time when you are around them. Be comfortable in just sitting in stillness while you are waiting. We do not always need to check our phones.
Encourage conversation with strangers instead while you are in a waiting room or at a check out line.
This is your life. Be engaged. Accept it. Show up for it.
I have one last story that I would like to share that will display the growth and progress that Shep has undergone, as well as the effectiveness of these exercises.
Last year, Shep took to wearing fake glasses, not because he needed them to see, but because he liked the way he felt in them. They were a heavy, black framed “Clark Kent” style of glasses that he would wear when reading, drawing, and writing stories. They seemed to allow him to feel his creativity, and essentially, his “true” self.
We let him wear them, but I did warn him, “if you truly want glasses and keep saying that you do, you will end up needing to wear them.”
One year later, we are at the eye doctor because Shep has difficulty reading and comes home from school with sore eyes and a headache.
Yep. Shep needs glasses, for real, not pretend anymore.
As he was quite happily searching the wall of frames, a pair gabbed his attention. They of course have thick frames and a “Clark Kentness” quality.
He excitedly tried them on and exclaimed, “I want these ones!”
The “helpful” lady working there smiled at me, and said “oh, but there are so many to choose from, why don’t you try these ones on?” as she handed a very modern, thin framed pair to Shep.
Shep looked at the glasses in her hand with disappointment, but politely he accepted them and tried them on.
“Well those look nice on you”, the lady encouraged.
I could see Shep’s deflation from the excited little boy he was a moment earlier.
Looking in Shep’s eyes I said, “Shep, you are the one who is going to be wearing these glasses, so it only matters that you are happy with them. Tell me, what does your heart tell you?”
Shep’s eyes lit up and a smile flashed across his face. He swiped the modern frames off his face and replaced them with the Clark Kent’s.
Relieved to see his spark returned, I said, “Great. Then those are the ones. Don’t even bother looking at the rest, they’ll only confuse you.”
Shocked, but not rude, the helpful lady measured up the Clark Kent frames and assured Shep that they would work just fine.
The lesson for me?
To trust my child in making his own decisions.
Glasses are personal and for Shep, a creative way of expressing himself.
How could I interfere with that?
We are here to guide and protect, not control our children.
We went to the grocery store afterwards, and Shep noticed an elderly lady in the line up behind us at the check out purchasing a couple big bags of cat food.
He whispered to me, “Mom, I’m going to help her lift those into her car.”
“That’s a wonderful idea, Shep. Go for it.”
So Shep and Summer offered their help and the lady, also shocked, but pleasantly surprised, gladly accepted.
When Shep returned, he was beaming, “That felt so good! I love helping people!”
I was beaming as well, but not out of pride or ego, but out of joy for Shep. For he was feeling who he truly is, the Shep that I would always catch glimpses of before he disappeared.
This is who we all are, and this is how we will create a peaceful world.
Shep told me not long ago, “Mom, I finally feel like people can see me. Before this, I always felt like I was “behind the scenes”, and who everyone could see wasn’t really me.”
You can imagine my relief and happiness as a mother to hear him say that.
Although Shep has had his “dark” times, he has emerged true to who he is. He had to learn that happiness comes from within, and that it is not something external that happens to us. It is a choice that we make every moment of every day. He had to learn to trust Life so that he can trust himself. He is learning that our greatest challenges are our greatest teachers.
We all emerge and grow more into ourselves everyday.
Everyday I ask, “Help me guide my children to their Highest Expressions of themselves.”
I have written many affirmations as well, stating that my children are strong in their own beings and are aligning with the vibration of their soul purpose.
I realize that there will always be new challenges, but I have witnessed enough growth to know that there are always tools and answers available to us, if we are open to them.
I have realized, as a parent, that my children are my greatest teachers and have helped me emerge into my Highest Expression of myself.
(oh, and I have also mentioned to Shep that once he has grown tired of wearing glasses, he can decide that he doesn’t want to wear them anymore)
I sincerely hope that you have found this helpful and I wish you joy on the journey.
I would love to hear from you! I can be contacted via my website jessieklassen.com where you can sign up to receive my weekly email with helpful advice, lessons from Nature, blog posts and latest articles. You can also reach me via email.
Love and blessings,
Enjoy fun activities and energy exercises to encourage growth, self-confidence, and awareness in you and your child while developing a close relationship with Nature in Jessie’s children’s book, “The Sapling.”
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