15 Reasons Why You Should Be Independent of the “good” Opinion of Others.

“Be independent of the good opinion of other people.” ~ Abraham Harold Maslow

We are often flattered by appreciation and hurt by criticism. While it is true that approval boosts our morale and criticism depresses us, quite often an obsessive quest for approval becomes a psychological problem. People almost go in a mode of complete self-negation and keep devising ways to please others.


This brings us to the importance of the need to think and act independently of what the people talk or think about us. It should, however, be noted that in our zest for independence we should not lose sight of the legitimate sensitivities of the people around us and also the need to remain with a certain amount of social discipline. Independent thinking does not mean being anarchic. Also we should be open to helpful and constructive criticism.

There are 15 reasons why we should not be obsessed with pleasing people to seek their appreciation.

1. Constant quest for appreciation may become a psychological problem.

Most of us who think that they are not getting the type and amount of approval they expect stop interacting with the people. They become introvert. The problem aggravates further when they try to create an imaginary world where they indulge in some sort of delusive self- talking especially with people whose favourable opinions and views they seek in the actual world, but cannot get.

“You will never gain anyone’s approval by begging for it. When you stand confident in your own worth, respect follows.” ~  Mandy Hale

 2. We are all born unique individuals.

Spiritually speaking, each one of us is born as a unique soul with individual ‘sanskars’ or certain naturally endowed thought patterns. Trying to cramp them to fit into the thinking moulds of others would mean going against the very laws of divinity and nature. If you do not believe in spirituality, still, it cannot be denied that biologically each one of us has unique genes and DNA.  Forcing them to go against their natural course may prove counterproductive.

Nonetheless, independent thinking does not mean ignoring the accumulated wisdom of the ages. It also includes listening attentively to the views of those who love and care for us and balance them with our own specific biological and spiritual needs.

3. Chasing approval from others may distract us from working to achieve our goals.

It dilutes our focus on what we really wish to pursue and may ultimately impede our progress and happiness resulting out of it.

“Do not look for approval except for the consciousness of doing your best.” ~ Andrew Carnegie

4. How many people can you please by seeking their approval?

There are hordes of them and each one has their own tastes, likes and dislikes. In trying to please everyone it is likely you end up displeasing most of them.

“People who want the most approval get the least and people who need approval the least get the most.” ~ Wayne Dyer

5. Independent thinking is essential for personal and social evolution.

What would have happened if Darwin had listened to the opinions of the ‘respected people’ of the society of those days and stopped pursuing his theory of evolution?

6. Truly independent people follow their own heart and soul even at great risks.

Socrates preferred to drink hemlock rather please the people in authority and seek their approval and live like their slave. He lived and died like truly free and fearless man.

7. Constant anxiety to seek approval from others causes tension and depression.

You are always looking sideways to see if someone is looking and risk losing your chosen path.

8. Anxiety about approval or disapproval suppresses creativity.

You need to follow your instincts to live a truly joyous and happy life.

“I too will something make
And joy in the making!
Altho’ tomorrow it seem’
Like the empty words of a dream
Remembered, on waking.” ~ Robert Bridges

9. Hypocrisy and self-deception

Working to always please others is self-defeating hypocrisy and dishonesty. You force yourself to obey others even if you think they are wrong. “It is not doing what you believe is wrong or right but what others believe is right or wrong for you”. In process you do not live for the pleasure of yourself, but for others. You are killing your soul.

10. Seeking approval is like living an imagined life in others’ breath.

Any person can breathe-blow you away like a useless piece of tiny straw.

11. Fear of approval or disapproval dissipates the raw, virginal and primordial instincts and feelings that our spirit is endowed with when we are born.

It kills the purity, simplicity, joy and innocence of our soul.

“The older I get, the less I care about what people think of me. Therefore the older I get, the more I enjoy life.” ~ Unknown

12. Fear of approval and disapproval kills initiative

Ability to take free and fearless initiative is the driving force for the evolution of self and society. It is the basic quality that defines true leadership that is marked by taking bold decisions regardless of what people think of you.

13. You live an artificial rather than a natural life.

If you follow your own instincts you can fly in the soaring heights of the limitless skies. On the other hand, you stay caged like a parrot with your wings clipped, howsoever beautiful and colourful you may look. You become a slave of others rather than being a master of your own free will.

14. Seeking appreciation of others stifles your divine powers of intuition, clairvoyance and foresight.

Most people stifle their innate divine powers of intuition and clairvoyance under the pressure of approval and disapproval of people around them.

15. Fear of disapproval leads to constrained and regimented living.

Quite often you come to grief for following the approval of others rather than your own instinct.

Dengue deluge highlights need for vaccine.


The global health burden of dengue could be much higher than previously thought. In modeling work published, a team led by Simon Hay, an epidemiologist at the University of Oxford, UK, estimated that 390 million people around the world were infected with the mosquito-borne virus in 2010, a figure more than three times greater than that given by the World Health Organization.

Only around a quarter of all the dengue cases were ‘apparent’—requiring medical treatment or making people miss work or school—so the findings are unlikely to greatly affect clinical practice. However, the large number of previously unrecognized people with mild or asymptomatic infections could have an impact on future mosquito control efforts or vaccination campaigns. “The bigger the problem, the more important become any efforts to prevent it,” says Donald Shepard, a health policy researcher at Brandeis University in Waltham, Massachusetts, who studies dengue.

Source: Nature

US court to rule on ReDigi’s MP3 digital music resales.

A US court is to consider a case that could determine whether digital media files can be resold.

One-year-old start-up ReDigi is battling music giant EMI over whether digital music can be retraded after it has been legally purchased.

ReDigi says that its software is designed to comply with existing United States copyright laws.

But EMI argues a legal principle which allows consumers to resell purchased material goods does not apply.

A judge at the district court in Manhattan, New York, will hear opening arguments in the case on Friday after EMI sued ReDigi for copyright infringement earlier this year.

Legal precedent

Launched in October 2011, ReDigi bills itself as the first legal online marketplace for second-hand digital material.

The company says thousands of people downloaded its software in the weeks after launch, but it says growth slowed after Capitol Records, a subset of EMI, sued in January.

EMI argues that digital music is not the same as CDs or books, meaning that the “first sale doctrine” does not apply.

It says that the only way to move music around involves making duplicates, and there is is no way to guarantee all the original owner’s copies of the files have been deleted.

The lawsuit will be closely watched by the wider media industry as it could set a precedent.

Search giant Google has written a letter to the judge arguing that the company had a “specific and vital interest” in the outcome.

“I think it could absolutely transform the industry,” Benjamin Shiller, a professor in economics at Brandeis University, told the BBC.

Switch to digital

US digital music sales are set to surpass CD and vinyl sales for the first time ever this year, according to research firm Strategy Analytics.

It estimates that digital sales will rise to $3.4bn (£2.1bn), compared to $3.38bn for physical sales.

“Most lawful users of music and books have hundreds of dollars of lawfully obtained things on their computers and right now the value of that is zero dollars,” said ReDigi’s chief executive John Ossenmacher.

“ReDigi takes zero dollars and we create billions of dollars in wealth overnight.”

ReDigi asks users to download proprietary software, which verifies if a file was bought legally. If the song checks out, it is then erased from the seller’s hard drive and uploaded to ReDigi’s computer servers.

ReDigi’s software is designed to prevent sellers from reinstalling a sold song to their computer, and offers users the chance to check their libraries for illegal music.

Mr Ossenmacher said that with all of the checks in place: “We were surprised by the lawsuit.”

Disruptive model

EMI’s lawyer Richard Mandel, declined to comment on the pending case.

In court documents the firm acknowledges that it had held discussions with ReDigi, but adds that it “certainly did not provide any approval of [its] concept”.

EMI’s suit demands ReDigi pay a penalty of $150,000 for each song in EMI’s catalogue that was sold via the service since its launch.

It may seem like a large sum, but legal experts note that the financial impact of ReDigi’s business model could be larger if it is judged to be legal.

“What this case points out is that the copyright statutes were written in an era when works of authorship were only available in tangible form,” said Jonathan Handel, an entertainment attorney at TroyGould.

“The copyright statute looks at the world through a lens of atoms not bits.”

Europe has already issued a ruling on a related case.

In July, a European Union court sided in favour of UsedSoft, a German company that resold Oracle software, arguing that “an author of a software cannot oppose the resale of his ‘used’ licences”.

Regardless of the outcome of the US suit, Mr Ossenmacher insists that ReDigi will continue to exist, with or without the record labels’ permission.

He has already announced plans to expand into the ebook market.

It could be a potentially lucrative step bearing in mind that digital books cost more than digital songs, and are likely to be resold sooner after purchase.