An Odd Physicist: What Is Feynman’s Legacy?


The Nobel Prize winning physicist made his mark as an original genius.

An Odd Physicist: What Is Feynman’s Legacy?

Richard Phillips Feynman (1918-1988) was one of the most brilliant and original physicists of the 20th century. With an extraordinary intuition, he always sought to address the problems of physics in a different way than others.

In 1965, he received the Nobel Prize in Physics and shared it with J. Schwinger and S. Tomonaga for his work in quantum electrodynamics. Independently, the results are shown as the quantum and relativistic study of systems with electrical charges such as electrons and positrons in the interaction with electromagnetic fields or electromagnetism.

Feynman’s technique illustrates his mood quite well. All his colleagues wrote long mathematical formulas whereas Richard Feynman drew, literally, the physical processes that he wanted to study, from which the calculations can be easily made with precise rules.

Currently, the use of Feynman diagrams or the variants of these diagrams is the standard procedure for calculations in the field of physics.

Richard Feynman

Feynman and the classroom space

For Feynman, the classroom was a theater, and he was an actor who had to maintain an intrigue while talking about physics and writing numbers and formulas on the board. With this intention, the classes or lectures were prepared very well like pieces of the classic theater with presentation and outcome.

His passionate way of talking about physics is probably why he became such a popular lecturer. Many of his lectures have been translated and published in the form of books, and there were even some recorded for television.

This happened, for example, with the “Messenger Conferences,” which he taught in 1964 at Cornell University. The lectures were recognized in the book “The Character of Physical Law.”

It is a novel reading, as befits a classic. To explain what physics is, Feynman reflects on general questions such as the principles of conservation, the meaning of the symmetries of physical laws and temporal evolution, and the distinction between past and future.

With his pragmatic style, Feynman always entered directly into the heart of the issue, into the audience, and the audience could grasp the problem posed.

A good example of this is when we talk about quantum physics. The whole mystery of quantum can be summed up in the wave/corpuscle duality, and the double-slit experiment contains the basic ingredients for discussing it.

Feynman does it with simplicity, and a depth that has never been surpassed and practically all the disclosures of quantum mechanics are inspired by this version.

Feynman only taught seniors and Ph.D. students with one crucial exception. In the years 1961-62 and 1962-63, he did a physics course for first and second-year students that have now become one of the most famous physics courses.

The classes were recorded, transcribed and published under the title “The Feynman Lectures on Physics” in three volumes that continue to be edited and translated today.

Although Feynman made a great effort to find simple and clear explanations for the students, the most who benefited were the Ph.D. students, professors, and scientists who attended his course because he used a brilliant way to illustrate by example how to think and reason in physics.

The course does not present physics in the traditional way, but the vision of Feynman. Feynman thus became a great teacher of teachers as has been written many times.

Feynman was known outside the scientific fields too, thanks to the publication of two books published by his friend Ralph Leighton with the anecdotes that he told during his weekly meetings to play the bongos. The two books (the original titles are Surely You Are Joking, Mr. Feynman and What Do You Care What Other People Think?) are still reissued with much success.

Naturally, the anecdotes are too beautiful to be true in all details, but faithfully convey the Feynman style and the vision he wanted to give of himself. And, it is that Feynman liked to tell funny stories in which he often had the most prominent role.

Feynman’s rise in popularity

But the true popularity came to him from participation in the commission in charge of investigating the accident of the Challenger in January of 1986. The space shuttle exploded shortly after rising, and the live broadcast on television of the accident amplified the social impact.

A good half of the second book of anecdotes is dedicated to this participation. Contrary to the president of the commission who wanted to control the whole process, Feynman did his own investigation following his own style.

Soon, he was convinced that the problem was in the rubber seals that closed the fuel tank. He saw that they could not withstand the low temperatures existing at the time of launch and decided to demonstrate it during one of the commission’s public sessions.

He showed that a piece of the gasket, compressed with a gag and cooled in a glass with ice, took more than enough time to recover its form, enough time for the fuel to escape from the tank and explode. The journalists present spread their intervention everywhere and everyone understood the main cause of the accident.

Feynman became almost a popular icon after that.

Final words

Physics

Quantum Confidential: The Lost History of Quantum Mechanics

If we leave all of Feynman’s aspects aside, his originality is basically his biggest legacy to humanity and future generations. If in youth this originality was above all motivated by a desire for competition, in his adulthood, it found a more interesting and profound aspect.

The laws of physics can often be formulated in many ways, different at first glance until with certain mathematical work; they are shown to be identical. Feynman said that this is a mysterious fact that nobody understands and saw a reflection of the simplicity of nature.

“If you realize all the time what’s kind of wonderful – that is, if we expand our experience into wilder and wilder regions of experience – every once in a while, we have these integrations when everything’s pulled together into a unification, in which it turns out to be simpler than it looked before,” Feynman aptly said in his book The Pleasure of Finding Things Out.

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15 critical secrets of mentally tough people


It’s natural to want the best things for ourselves: better friends, a better job, better pay. On the other hand, these things aren’t easy to achieve especially when you feel like you can’t change your life. Breaking the norm and changing your lifestyle to achieve greater things requires qualities that most strong people have.

Instead of looking down at obstacles, they see these as challenges they could use to build up character and skill. Negativity is non-existent because bad forces in life turn out to be potential learning opportunities.

This is just one of the habits strong individuals routinely exercise to keep their head above water.

Below are more personality traits you (and any other strong person) could grow into:

1) They are optimistic

The world is a terrible place, as most news outlets would report. Nonstop famine, war, sadness, and crime are reported from all around the globe.

This barrage of negative vibes makes it hard to have a positive outlook on life, but strong people know better than to let bad events affect them.

The world may be a bad place, but strong-willed individuals understand that getting caught up in these things won’t magically transform all humans into peace-loving creatures.

Instead of trying to change things they can’t control, strong people shift their focus on their individual pursuits instead of worrying about the world.

2) They don’t need validation

There’s a saying that goes, “If you make enemies in your life that’s when you know you’re doing something right.” People are made differently, which makes it pretty inevitable to get into disagreements with people.

The fact is, you can’t please everyone, so why even bother fitting in every single social circle in the first place?

Social anxiety is one thing, but trying your hardest to get praise and admiration from everyone around you is another. Holding on to these emotions leads to stress and can have dire impacts on your general well-being.

3) They understand the value of rest

Nowadays, we associate all-nighters with success because our culture has changed the way we look at productivity, where more hours automatically means a job well done..

Still, our bodies haven’t changed and we still need enough work to function throughout the day.

Multiple studies have proved time and time again that sleep deprivation affects concentration, focus, and willpower. People who don’t get enough sleep are literally less mentally tough than people who enjoyed an 8-hour shut eye.

4) They don’t rely on caffeine for energy

Too much caffeine in your system automatically releases adrenaline into your body. This causes you to go into a state of fight-or-flight, in which you make a decision based on speed and quickness rather than rationality. As great as this may be in a life-or-death situation, it’s not so great when you’re struggling with an important decision in your everyday life.

Caffeine takes away some of the strength you have over your decision-making and limits how well you can think. People who are mentally strong know to avoid caffeine, especially on days when they need full control of their thoughts.

5) They Don’t Need An Apology to Move Forward

A lot of people concern themselves with grudges; who did what, how they were hurt, what they deserve, and the pain that was caused them.

But this takes a lot of time and emotional turmoil, which brings you down and limits your happiness. It’s stress that you don’t need, stress which can bring you mental and physical consequences. So instead of waiting for an apology, just move forward.

6) They Keep Their Bodies Fit

It was recently found at the Eastern Ontario Research Institute that individuals who engage in intense physical activity at least twice a week were more intellectually, socially, and athletically fit.

They had a better perception of themselves, rating themselves physically and mentally higher than those who didn’t exercise, and the confidence brought upon by their fitter bodies helped them with general mental toughness.

7) They Never Stop Anyone From Having Fun

Being the master of your own happiness means that you don’t care about the joy and experiences of others. Those who are weak-minded spend too much time dwelling on whether others are experiencing better joys than them. But those who have the mental toughness to think about themselves and make their own experiences the best they can be couldn’t care less about what other people are doing.

Jealousy and resentment can sap your own joys in life. Wasting your energies on these negative emotions pulls you down as well, so why do it at all?

8) And They Never Let Anyone Stop Them From Having Fun

Experience life the way you want to experience it. Live life to the fullest, and take advantage of every bit of joy and happiness you have.

Mentally tough people don’t let the thoughts and opinions of others define the way they experience situations; instead, they let themselves be the judge of how they feel and how they act.

No matter what people think, that will never change the reality of how you are.

9) They Let Themselves Fail

Some of us are terrified of failure. We don’t want to lose and don’t want to be laughed at, to the point that we can’t stand the act of participating at all.

But people who are mentally strong have no fear of failure. In fact, they embrace it: they understand that each failure is a lesson for them, adding value to their overall character.

10) And They Don’t Obsess Over Their Mistakes

With failure comes mistakes. We all make mistakes, but the way we approach mistakes defines our relationship with them.

For some of us, we are intrinsically terrified of mistakes and failure, and we refuse to even try, in the fear of doing something wrong.

But mentally tough people make mistakes, just like the rest of us do; the difference, however, is that they don’t let their mistakes define them. They learn from them and move on.

11) They Love Change

Adapting is the favorite thing to do of the mentally tough individual. Being afraid of change can limit what you can achieve in life, so instead of fearing it, they look for every opportunity to unravel it.

12) They Know When To Say No

When your boss asks you to do something, you might have this built-in feeling that you simply can’t say no.

But mentally tough people know that “no” is important. “No” is the affirmation that you care about your own time and space, and you know when to protect your personal wants and needs rather than letting themselves be taken advantage of. Secondly, they also know how to say “no” to vices.

Sometimes, enough is enough.

13) They Get Rid Of Toxicity

Toxic people are anchors to our lives; their toxicity brings us down, and if we don’t watch out, they can turn us into toxic people as well. Mentally tough people have realized this, and do everything in their power to cut toxic people out.

They don’t allow their anger or frustration to build chaos within themselves and know how to separate the toxicity of others from their own true, healthy feelings.

14) They Are Confident No Matter What

Confidence is something that comes and goes for some of us, depending on the day or the compliment we receive. But mentally tough people create their own confidence, and it’s something that lives with. They also inspire confidence in others, making them better leaders and role models.

15) And They Have High Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence is one of the most important qualities of a mentally tough individual. Knowing how to understand and tolerate the actions and thoughts of others is key towards controlling your own emotions.

And the great thing about EQ is that it is something you can develop and learn. Unfortunately, not many people have strong EQ; it was found in a recent study that just 36% of people can accurately identify their own emotions while they are feeling them.

Celebrating women leaders in science and health


On International Women’s Day, we celebrate all the women who have had a pioneering role in advancing science and health. One of the best known was Florence Nightingale, a 19th- century statistician and founder of modern nursing, who understood the benefits of hygiene and sanitation in preventing disease.

Fe del Mundo a paediatrician from the Philippines, who went on to do pioneering work on infectious diseases including dengue, was the first female student at Harvard Medical School.

Anandi Gopal Joshi was one of the first Indian female doctors, appointed physician-in-charge at a hospital in central India, before she died of tuberculosis aged just 22.

Elizabeth Garrett Anderson, born shortly after Florence Nightingale, taught herself French so that she could obtain a medical degree at the University of Sorbonne in Paris. She became Britain’s first female doctor.

In the 20th century, Anne Szarewski discovered the cause of cervical cancer, leading to the first-ever HPV vaccine and Françoise Barré-Sinoussi’s work on HIV was fundamental to the identification of the virus as the cause of AIDS.   

In 2019, however, women are still only a third of researchers worldwide, on average. Some regions such as Central Asia as well as Latin America and the Caribbean have a nearly equal gender balance, but in Europe and North America, the proportion of women remains around 30-35%.

Women also struggle to rise up the ranks of both health and science. Women make up just 12% of the membership of national science academies around the world. Female health workers comprise 70% of the health workforce worldwide, yet women occupy only 25% of leadership positions in health.

And the pay differential is high: the gender pay gap in health and social sectors is around 26% in high-income countries and 29% in upper-middle income countries.

Gender discrimination, implicit bias, sexual harassment, and assault have been found to be systemic barriers to women’s advancement in global health careers. These are compounded by a lack of policies to accommodate having children (including flexible working arrangements and increased paternity leave).

There are positive signs that change is coming. In WHO for example, women hold 60% of senior leadership positions. WHO also has an active gender equity hub to ensure that a gender lens is applied on health workforce policies worldwide. Things are changing in academia as well: last year, nearly 40% of new members into the National Academy of Medicine were women.

Evidence is emerging already that implementing flexible working arrangements, providing mentorship programmes, and instituting formal polices on gender discrimination and harassment, and gender-specific leadership training can break down the barriers for women to lead in global health.

However, it is important to transform the very systems that women work in.This may require re-examining traditional career trajectories and methods of promotion. Too often, women are encouraged to mould to a system that was designed for men. However, new waves of women leaders are succeeding in ways that reflect tolerance, cooperation and resolve. These women may lead in different ways, sharing power and information while enhancing other people’s self-worth.

The argument for increasing the representation of women leaders in science and health is often economic, on the basis that diverse perspectives in leadership can benefit business. But a business case cannot be the only reason to advance women in science.

On 8 March 2019, it’s a moment to recall that principles of human rights and social equity require that women play just as significant roles in science and health as men.

What Happens When You Start to Love Yourself First?


What Happens When You Start to Love Yourself First?

“Love yourself. Enough to take the actions required for your happiness. Enough to cut yourself loose from the drama-filled past. Enough to set a high standard for relationships. Enough to feed your mind and body in a healthy manner. Enough to forgive yourself. Enough to move on.” – Steve Maraboli

My 15-year-old daughter sat next to me in the passenger seat as I drove, curiously opening the pile of notes before her wondering what each one would reveal. We had just been given a box of memorabilia from when I was a young child.

“Dear Mom, I love you and you are the most loveable person in the world and wonderful. I love you very, very much. xoxoxoxoxoxo Love, Lynnie

“Day by Day, I Love You. Night by Night, I say, “No matter what will ever happen, I’ll always Love you anyway. Love, Lynn”

“To Mommy, Just want to say I LOVE YOU. Love, Lynn.”

One after another expressing my love to the person who I knew needed to hear it. My mother.  A woman who suffered from Manic Depression and struggled to manage her debilitating highs and lows as she attempted to live a “normal” life.

It appeared I needed her to know…to feel…Loved. I did my very best to shower her with proof that she was important and thought of with warm and loving thoughts.  What I couldn’t do was convince her to feel the same. I couldn’t get her to see what I saw or felt, but that didn’t stop me from trying.

My efforts were strong, but her will won out. She committed suicide right before I turned 15 years old…the same age as my own daughter reading my love notes from childhood.

“That is just another example,” I told my daughter,”of how people can’t receive what they don’t feel. We can love someone with every part of our being, but if they don’t feel it for themselves, they won’t be able to feel it from outside of them either. It has to start with yourself.”

I’m a professional counselor. I’ve heard myself say those words many times before, but not when describing my mother. Even as I said the words they began to sink in more.

There was nothing I could do….

Suicide brings on a complicated kind of grief. All the typical cycles are present…the denial, the anger, the sadness, the regret…on repeat. The “what iffing” that joins in is one that seems to have it’s own relentless voice.

“What if I had…what if she had…what if he had…what if they had…?”

Over and over again. What would have been different? Even when we’ve accepted the WHY, we still struggle to not keep asking “But what if?”

I’ve dedicated my life’s work to helping people enjoy life more. I’ve dedicated my own effort to doing the same for myself. I know crippling anxiety. I know the heaviness of depression. I know what’s it’s like to question, what the hell am I doing here?

I also know what it’s like to want to feel loved and appreciated, but put myself in positions over and over again that gave me the opposite feeling. I know what it feels like to keep trying to prove myself and not feel accepted in return. I know what it’s like to assume life is never going to actually improve, despite my desperate desire for it.

But I also know that life has a way of giving us what we need and feeding us our worth when we open ourselves up more and let it in. And the only way to do that, is to start with how you feel about yourself.

What Happens When You Start to Love Yourself First?

If you don’t think you are good enough, then you won’t accept the compliment. If you don’t like the way you feel, you will look for the validation of your value outside of yourself over and over again, but you won’t be able to fully absorb it. It will fill you briefly, but then you will be hungry for more soon after. It won’t be enough.

And that’s because you can’t hold on to what you don’t fully believe.  If you won’t take it in then why would you ask for more of what you want? If you don’t feel confident enough, then why would let yourself be in a relationship that feeds your desire to be loved? Really loved with actions that prove it.

In order to own it, truly own the love and acceptance that is given to you, you must love yourself first. The way you view your life, your value, what you give to the world and the people in it. You’ll benefit from looking inside of your own heart and identifying the pains and the voices that keep you down. And you will really benefit from challenging them!

You want proof that you have something to offer? That you are enough? Then spend some time getting to know the you you want others to see. The scared parts, the lonely parts, the protective parts, the angry parts, as well as the loving parts, the proud parts, the compassionate parts, the optimistic parts who see hope clearly and the light of a cloudy day. Get to know those parts, all of them. And befriend them. Accept them, feel compassion for them and learn to let them be really loved and honored for who they are.

Those parts want to be seen, heard, understood and accepted, as well acknowledged for the gift they are that makes up amazing you.

Take out a piece of paper and list out the parts of yourself. Give them names and their dominant characteristics. Introduce them to each other. Ask them the questions you’d ask someone you were just meeting.

When do they show up in your life? Where did they come from?

Who do they remind you of? Who are you drawn to the most? Who irritates you the most?

How are they protecting you? How are they harming you? Ask them why.

Get to know them each as the parts of you who make up your amazingness as a whole. We are not looking to abolish them, but accept them. All of them. They each have a purpose. Learn what that purpose is and how you can learn to work with them, not against each other.

If you can’t understand why you don’t feel loved or why it comes so fleeting into your life, start with you.

All of you.

You deserve the time, focus and energy it takes learning to accept and appreciate yourself and all the sustainable joy that comes with it.

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Selfish people: 14 things they do and how to deal with them


This may sound ironic but it’s true.

Selfish people don’t know they’re being selfish.

They just assume they’re nice people who care about their own happiness more than anything else.

But on their journey towards finding their happiness, they carelessly and intentionally walk over people.

In every relationship, be it platonic or romantic, partners give and take from each other in equal measures without keeping count.

But a relationship with a selfish person means that they extract your love and affections, without giving back in return. They think that they are needed more than they need you.

Unfortunately, the traits of selfish people are not easy to notice. Most of the time, they are people pleasers and hide their dark side very well.

Not until you let them in and drop your guard down that they start showing their true colors.

So watch out for these early signs before you fall into their selfish trap:

1. Selfish people are very good manipulators

A manipulative person refers to someone who seeks to control people and circumstances just to achieve what they want. Selfish people are skilled manipulators by instinct and control freak at heart.

Manipulation is a scary thing because it is not something that we are born with. It is developed over time and is practiced.

A child can be selfish when it comes to their toys but if selfishness is carried on into adulthood, it is one of the worst habits one can actually have.

2. Selfish people are uncaring towards others

Selfish people are uncaring and neglectful to other people’s needs.

For example, if you open up your emotions to them, they will take advantage of you instead of helping you. Or they will not even listen to a word you say.

If you are in this situation, you should not rely on them. Rather, to put your self first when you are with them.

3. Selfish people plot and scheme against you

This happens when the selfish person feels out of control and fails to manipulate you. Their egos are huge that they cannot accept that their supposed manipulation is ruined.

To exact revenge, they will plot and scheme in order to get their own way. They will stop at nothing to gain control of everything.

What you can do in this situation is to counteract with kindness. But if the selfish person cannot deal with this, you have no choice but to let them go.

4. Selfish people are conceited and self-centered

The way selfish people think is that they want to be put first. However, they are not satisfied with being the priority. They also want to put you down.

Ever met someone who insists that everything they say is of relevance and everything that you say is not? That is a classic example of a selfish person.

The way in which to deal with this is to simply ignore them. Let them be how they are and do not let it affect you personally.

5. Selfish people find sharing and giving difficult

Maybe you know of a selfish person but you have some doubts because that someone shows a caring side.

Let me tell you this, it’s all fake. Caring, sharing, and giving are not an easy thing for them to do and those actions will show through in this situation.

For one, they will want something in exchange. Maybe they want everyone to know about it so that they are praised for it.

If you are in this situation, just let their gesture of good will go unnoticed and not to praise them for it.

6. Selfish people expect others to do things for them

A selfish person has a high expectation of himself. He thinks he is above others and they want to be appreciated and put on a pedestal.

Because of their way of thinking, they expect other people to do things for them. When you see that this is happening, do not let them have what they want.

It’s all about control, so do not give it to them.

7. Selfish people do not show weakness or vulnerability

Selfish people do not do anything for free. They have the fear of trying something and feeling that the action doesn’t actually help or serve much of a purpose.

It’s always “What’s in it for me?”

Selfish people are scared to show weakness. They think that by helping other people, he or she is demonstrating weakness or internal insecurity.

They do not realize that everyone has weaknesses, even them. These weaknesses are what make us human but for them, they are above all else so they are close to being perfect.

8. Selfish people don’t accept constructive criticism

People who are selfish cannot and will not accept constructive criticism. Their huge egos just can’t process that constructive criticism is for their own good.

They only think that you are attempting to devalue their work and their potential. This situation will always end up with the selfish person defending themselves.

Indeed, it is very difficult for them to realize that they are wrong.

9. Selfish people believe they deserve everything

Being selfish is not only characterized with self-centeredness but also with false sense of entitlement.

For example, they expect to be continuously rewarded even without doing anything. The reason? They just deserve everything!

They demand that other people value and recognize them as if they had a long history of pursuing that goal.

They believe that they will always be successful because they are who they are.

10. Selfish people do not listen to those who do not agree with them

When you say something to a selfish person, even if it’s constructive, will be taken against you. They will think that you are their enemy and you do not deserve their respect or attention.

Criticism is good because it lets you learn from the opinions of others. But a selfish person has no time to broaden one’s horizons and grow.

11. Selfish people criticize others behind their backs

Selfish people prefer easy judgment and nothing is easier than judging behind a person’s back.

Deep down, they fear that they are not right and will pass this judgement to others, from a distance.

12. Selfish people exaggerate their achievements

One of the most notorious deficiencies of selfish people is their lack of humility.

Humility, considered as a precious human virtue, is needed for us to grow as people and as social beings in our environment.

But selfish people, having huge egos, will always look for ways to stand out and exaggerate their achievements.

They reward themselves too much when something is successful, but make a run for the emergency exit when the project does not turn out well. They can even pass the blame to others.

13. Selfish people are scared of taking risks

Selfish people cannot bring themselves to think of their failure. When they fail, either they run from the situation or blame others.

However, when other people fail is another story. They don’t think twice about giving out severe criticism when others fail.

Most of the time, they are the first ones to tell you that you “should’ve seen that coming.”

14. Selfish people dominate others

Do you know someone who calls you up whenever he or she feels like it? Or asks you to meet them at their whims and fancies?

This is one characteristic of a selfish person – they wrap you around their fingers and it’s pretty hard to break loose. Victims of selfish people end up losing confidence.

If you are in this situation, turn the table around and do not lose your personality. If they can’t take your assertiveness, they will walk out of your life. And that’s a good thing for you.

If you’re wondering how to deal with a selfish person, check out the below 10 tips.

How to deal with selfish people: 10 no-nonsense tips

1) Accept that they have no regards for others

As annoying as it is that you’re dealing with a selfish person, you need to accept the way they are.

Otherwise you’ll get frustrated and annoyed with their behaviour.

Here are some things that you need to accept about them, rather than get frustrated by:

– They won’t put your needs first.
– They won’t be thoughtful and considerate.
– They’ll purely look out for their own interests.

Once you’ve accepted these things about them, you won’t negatively react when they act selfish. Because they will act selfish.

And now you can focus on the below more important ways to deal with them.

2) Give yourself the attention you know you deserve

Selfish people only want attention for themselves. But they don’t want to give it.

So it’s time to turn the tide and focus on yourself.

Forget about their problems that they can’t stop babbling about and focus on you.

If you’re feeling a bit down, ask yourself why. If you feel a little shabby, go and get a haircut and a massage.

You don’t have to ignore your own needs to give attention to a self-absorbed energy sucker.

It will only make you emotionally drained and you won’t be able to help out people who actually do need the help.

3) Whatever you do, don’t fall to their level

Selfish people are frustrating. They only care about themselves and they’ll manipulate you to get what they want.

So it’s crucial that you keep your wits about it and don’t play their game. If you feel like they’re manipulating you so you can help them out, put a stop to it.

In the same vain, don’t emotionally react to their selflish behavior.

If they cause you to be angry or frustrated, then you’re falling to their level of toxic energy, which won’t do anyone any good.

Know yourself and the loving person that you are.

4) Let them know that there’s more to the world than themselves

Selfish people think the whole world revolves around them. When you’re telling a story, they won’t be interested unless it involves them.

So if they’re unwilling to engage in anything that doesn’t involve themselves, it might be time to let them know that they’re not the center of the universe.

Don’t say it in an angry or aggressive manner. Calmly and logically let them know that they might not be as important as they think they are. It might be good for them.

5) Don’t give them attention

Selfish people crave people’s attention. They constantly look for sympathy. This is why they love to play the victim.

So if they’re telling you a story where they’re crying about the world being against them, don’t fall for their ridiculous story and simply tell them that that’s life.

They might be shocked, but it could be the tough love that they need to hear.

What’s more, if you don’t give them the attention they crave, their behavior may slowly change.

6) Don’t just talk about what they’re interested in – talk about what interests you

Self-absorbed people can sabotage your conversations so that they only talk about themselves and what they’re interested in.

Be mindful of this and don’t let it happen.

You’re not there to simply be a listener, especially when the topic of conversation is boring and it’s all about them.

Bring up random and interesting stories that you love to talk about. If they can’t handle it and want to get away from you, even better!

7) Stop doing everything that they demand you to do

There’s no getting around it: Selfish people want people to do things for them.

The kicker?

They won’t do anything for anyone else.

While it’s important to help out someone when they need help, there’s a line you don’t cross.

If they’re constantly asking you to do things for them and they’re doing nothing in return, then you need to put a stop to this one sided agreement.

It’s time to be assertive and stand up for yourself.

In a sensible manner, let them know that they never do anything for you and expect the world for themselves. You’re just as important as they are.

8) Don’t spend too much time with them

This is an obvious one, but many people make the same mistake over and over.

If you’re getting frustrated with how toxic and self-absorbed they are, limit your time with them.

Simple, right?

Sometimes you have to respect yourself and your time. They might complain that you don’t have much time for them anymore, but stand firm.

Only see them every now and then. In this way, you can keep the friendship going but you won’t be as affected by their toxic energy.

9) Hang out with people better

The people you hang out with have a huge influence on your life.

According to life hacking expert Tim Ferriss, we’re the average of the 5 people we hang out with most.

If you continually hang out with selfish people, you might become selfish yourself. Now I know and you know that you don’t want that.

So what can you do? Hang out with people who are positive and uplifting. Life is too short to spend time with toxic and selfish people!

10) End the relationship

This is a drastic step. But if this selfish person is really getting to you and they’re seriously hindering your life, then you might want to consider what life might look without them.

If this selfish person is a narcissist, it’s not out of the question that they’ll damage you emotionally.

Narcissists are all about themselves and they’ll do anything to get what they want.

Sometimes you need to look out for yourself and your own emotional health. If you feel that they have the potential to damage you, then it might be time to bite the bullet and get rid of them.

In Conclusion

Selfish people cause pain to the people around them.

They shatter hearts and cause problems for anyone.

Selfishness comes with immaturity. The most you can do is to let them stop controlling you to teach them that they’re wrong.

Let them know that they cannot control you. Hopefully, they will get the hint and go away.

Or they will realize it’s time to change.

Just keep your fingers crossed.

Once you accept these 10 brutal realities of life, you’ll be much stronger


Life is no picnic. All too often, we have to overcome obstacles in order to survive.

Sometimes we try to deny these obstacles because they’re too difficult to bare.

But as hard as they are to confront, it’s necessary if we want to live a truly fulfilling and free life.

Whenever I need to confront the difficult aspects of life, I look to this quote by Alex Karras:

“It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more manhood (or womanhood) to abide by thought-out principles rather than blind reflex. Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles and an immature mind.” – Alex Karras

So if you want to grow stronger and more wise, check out these 10 lessons about life that we all need to accept.

1) In order to be comfortable, we need to accept the uncomfortable.

No one likes being in uncomfortable situations.  We’d all rather run in the opposite direction and never think of it again.

But take a minute and ask yourself, “What would happen if I ran towards the discomfort instead of away from it?”

By allowing yourself to embrace that unpleasant feeling and accept it, you’ll find yourself feeling relieved.

You are no longer fighting against yourself and your feelings, you’re embracing them.  Once you do this you’ll feel a weight lifted off your shoulders.

2) The first step to change is awareness.

It’s easy to get caught up in all the bad feelings you may be feeling at the time.  Your mind is working overtime and you have a million thoughts running through your head.  Don’t let yourself get too overwhelmed.

Take a moment once in awhile, especially when you’re in a difficult situation, to check in with yourself and recognize how you’re feeling.  Then tell yourself that everything is okay and just like all moments, this one will also pass.

3) Anything we repress comes back to bite us 10 times harder.

Showing your emotions can be difficult to do, especially in front of people we want to impress or love.  We would all love to appear strong and put together at all moments in time, but that isn’t how human nature works.

We are vulnerable creatures with very real and intense emotions.  When you’re feeling down or in a tough spot, don’t try to hide it and handle it yourself.  Allow yourself to share those feelings with someone and remember that it’s okay to ask for help.

4) Overthinking is a huge cause of unhappiness.

Overthinking a situation does nothing but make it worse.  It can be exhausting staying up and thinking over every little detail of a hard situation.  It’s okay to give yourself a break!  Distract yourself once in awhile and let your mind relax.  Go ahead and hit the reset button on your mind.

5) A battle we’ll never win is when we fight with ourselves.

Your mind and your thoughts will always be with you.  They are always there and present no matter what you do or say.  When you push yourself beyond your limits, you’re putting pressure on your mind to work in overdrive.

But eventually you’ll run out of steam and then what?

You’ll be faced with the fact that once in awhile it’s okay to rest.  Don’t think about the things you should be doing or all that needs to get done.  Put yourself first and just let yourself live in the present.

6) Everyone will die.

This may sound callous and harsh but it is true. Life can only be life if there is something to compare it to. We are living organisms that have a certain time to live. Many people pretend it is not true and are not appreciative of the time they have with others.

By acknowledging that we will all die, we can take a big picture perspective and avoid small fights and pride and in turn have better relationships.

7) You give your own life meaning.

It is a traditional Buddhist perspective that our own thoughts and actions create the world that we live in. In this thinking, it is clear that the things you do and think create your reality. You give meaning to the things you do.

Because of this, you don’t need to compare yourself to others or focus on what it means for others to be successful. You give your own actions meaning.

8) Life isn’t that serious, so have fun.

Life is like a game, you do things for experience, you can level up after you play certain levels or achieve certain things, and it always ends.

By worrying and trying to stay within limitations that were given to you, not made by you, you’re not really living. Make your own rules, don’t be afraid to try something new, and enjoy yourself!

9) Everything will come to an end.

Nothing lasts forever. Not relationships, not skin plumpness, not relationships, and not careers. It’s the fact that things are temporary that gives life meaning and real appreciation.

Since we know that all things will end, we know that it’s important to enjoy the little things before they end. When things become boring or commonplace it’s the best time to look with a new perspective or take a different route. The world is full of magic if you can just open your mind to it.

10) Make a change or don’t complain.

We all have complaints about things, from the way our coffee was prepared to the way the president runs the country. However, if you can’t find a way to make something better, don’t complain about it. Upon further reflection you may find that your way isn’t really that much better.

Thich Nhat Hanh recommends 5 meditation techniques that rewire your brain to live in the present moment


To become successful and joyful, you must succeed in generating inner peace. But when our lives are full of chaos, it can be difficult to work out exactly how to go about it.

One of the best and most consistent ways is through meditation techniques. Meditation is a great practice that helps us relax and find inner peace.

The problem is it can be hard to figure out how to practice meditation properly, if you haven’t got access to an expert. We will talk about some Thich Nhat Hanh mindfulness techniques that will help you.

So below, we’re going to go over meditation techniques from none other than the Zen Buddhist Master, Thich Nhat Hanh. Enjoy!

1) Mindful Breathing

According to Thich Nhat Hanh, this is the most simple and basic meditation technique but also the most useful. Why? Because we’re always breathing. You can literally practice this anywhere, anytime, even if it’s for 15 seconds.

The main crux of this technique is that you simply focus on your breath.

Here is Thich Nhat Hanh explaining how to go about it:

“Please, when you breathe in, do not make an effort of breathing in. You just allow yourself to breathe in. Even if you don’t breathe in it will breathe in by itself. So don’t say, “My breath, come, so that I tell you how to do.” Don’t try to force anything, don’t try to intervene, just allow the breathing in to take place….

“What you have to do is be aware of the fact that the breathing in is taking place. And you have more chance to enjoy your in-breath. Don’t struggle with your breath, that is what I recommend. Realize that your in breath is a wonder. When someone is dead, no matter what we do, the person will not breathe in again. So we are breathing in, that is a wonderful thing….

“This is the first recommendation on breathing that the Buddha made: When breathing in, I know this is the in-breath. When breathing out, I know this is the out-breath. When the in-breath is long, I know it is long. When it is short, I know it is short. Just recognition, mere recognition, simple recognition of the presence of the in-breath and out-breath. When you do that, suddenly you become entirely present. What a miracle, because to meditate means to be there. To be there with yourself, to be there with your in‑breath.”

2) Concentration

According to Thich Nhat Hanh, concentration is a great source of happiness. Concentration simply means focusing on something, whether it’s your breathe, a flower or a body part. You could literally point your focus on anything, and as long as you keep that focus, you are practising mindfulness.

It’s recommended that you choose an object where you don’t have to scan your eyes. Buddhist monks tend to use a candle flame. If you get distracted by your thoughts, simply return your focus back to the object. You can start this for one minute and then keep on increasing the time as you get more practice. Thich Nhat Hanh explains why this is so powerful:

“Anything can be the object of your meditation, and with the powerful energy of concentration, you can make a breakthrough and develop insight. It’s like a magnifying glass concentrating the light of the sun. If you put the point of concentrated light on a piece of paper, it will burn. Similarly, when your mindfulness and concentration are powerful, your insight will liberate you from fear, anger, and despair, and bring you true joy, true peace, and true happiness.”

3) Awareness of your body

This is the technique Thich Nhat Hanh recommends to use to get in touch with your body. All it involves is a body scan where you turn your focus to each of your body parts one by one. As you’re going through your body, release any tension and simply try to relax. Thich Nhat Hanh says that this is powerful because we rarely experience this in daily existence. Our body is there but our mind is elsewhere.

Thich Nhat Han recommends to use this mantra: “Breathing in, I’m aware of my body. When you practice mindful breathing, the quality of your in-breath and out-breath will be improved. There is more peace and harmony in your breathing, and if you continue to practice like that, the peace and the harmony will penetrate into the body, and the body will profit.”

4) Release tension

guy lying on the grass using Thich Nhat Hanh mindfulness techniques

The next exercise is to release tension in the body. When you start becoming aware of your body, you’ll notice tension in different parts of your body. Therefore, it is very important to learn how to release the tension in the body.

Thich Nhat Hanh explains how:

“So next time you’re stopped at a red light, you might like to sit back and practice the fourth exercise: “Breathing in, I’m aware of my body. Breathing out, I release the tension in my body.” Peace is possible at that moment, and it can be practiced many times a day—in the workplace, while you are driving, while you are cooking, while you are doing the dishes, while you are watering the vegetable garden. It is always possible to practice releasing the tension in yourself.”

5) Mindful walking

Remember the first technique? When you practice mindful breathing you let breath take place without effort. You simply enjoy it. The same thing is true with mindful walking. Thich Nhat Hanh says it best:

“You don’t have to make any effort during walking meditation, because it is enjoyable. You are there, body and mind together. You are fully alive, fully present in the here and the now. With every step, you touch the wonders of life that are in you and around you. When you walk like that, every step brings healing. Every step brings peace and joy, because every step is a miracle.

The real miracle is not to fly or walk on fire. The real miracle is to walk on the Earth, and you can perform that miracle at any time.”

7 things every happy person does before 8am


Life is busy. It can feel impossible to move forward sometimes. From having a full-time job, to working on your relationships with your loved ones, how are you actually meant to progress and improve in other areas your life?

The truth is, if you don’t purposefully carve out time every day to improve yourself, your time will get lost in the vacuum of our increasingly busy lives. Before you know it, you’ll be lying on your deathbed wondering where all the days went.

As professor Harold Hill has said, “You pile up enough tomorrows, and you’ll find you are left with nothing but a lot of empty yesterdays.”

How to rethink your life

In order to avoid getting stuck in a rut, we need to rethink our approach to life. We need to get back to the fundamentals and only focus on what’s important in our life. Sadly, many people are too focused on the trivial and nonessential. This leaves no time to build something meaningful.

In this current age, we actually have the choice and power to live on our own terms. One generation ago, it was social and cultural to live on other people’s terms. However, with the interconnectedness of the world and infinite knowledge at our fingertips, we can decide to live with intention and take responsibility for ourselves.

You get to decide.

With this short morning routine, your life will quickly change. It’s only 7 points long, but if you follow it, it can transform your days so you can be more productive.

1) Get a healthy seven-plus hours sleep

Let’s face it – sleep is important. Without it, our brains don’t function as well as they could and it can be harmful to your health. While this article is about doing 7 things before 8 am, the truth is, there’s no much point in waking up at 5 am if you went to bed 3 hours earlier. Try to get an adequate of sleep to get your day off to a good start.

2) Meditation to facilitate clarity

What you focus on matters and when your brain is scattered, it doesn’t really know what to do. Meditation is an excellent practice to clear the mind and focus. That’s literally what the practice is about. Focusing on a particular point of object, like your breath, so you can quieten the mind.

After this, you’ll have a clearer idea of what you want to achieve that day, without feeling like your mind is muddled.

3) Hard physical activity

There’s evidence that exercise is beneficial for not only your body, but your mind too. Yet, according to recent research, only one third of American men and women engage in regular physical activity. If you want to be healthy and happy, you need to get in a habit of exercising.

Whether it’s the gym or a brisk walk, get your body moving. Exercise has been found to decrease anxiety, stress and depression. Treat your body like a temple.

4) Consume 30 grams of protein

Tim Ferriss and professor emeritus of nutrition at the University of Illinois recommend consuming at 30 grams of protein for breakfast. Protein rich foods keep you full for longer than to other foods and eating protein first decreases your white carbohydrate cravings. These are the type of carbs that get you fat.

Tim makes four recommendations for getting adequate protein in the morning:

1. Eat at least 40 percent of your breakfast calories as protein.

2. Do it with two or three whole eggs (each egg has about 6 grams of protein).

3. If you don’t like eggs, use something like turkey bacon, organic pork bacon or sausage, or cottage cheese.

4. Or, you could always do a protein shake with water.

5) Take a cold shower

Tony Robbins jumps into a 57 degree Fahrenheit swimming pool.

Why?

Because cold water has been found to radically facilitate physical and mental wellness. When practiced regularly, it provides long-lasting changes to your body’s immune, lymphatic, circulatory, and digestive systems that improve the quality of your life.

6) Listen to or read uplifting content

If you want to be productive and successful in life, you need to be constantly learning. It is common for the world’s most successful people to read and read and read.

If you take 15 to 30 minutes every morning to read uplifting and instructive information, over a long period of time, you would have read hundreds of books. You’ll see the world more wisely and differently.

7) Review your life vision

Write your goals – short and long term. Taking just a few minutes to read these goals every day puts your life into perspective and whether or not you’re on the right path.

Each day will feel purpose driven. If you follow a simple pattern, you can accomplish all of your goals, no matter how big they are.

How to let go of someone you love: 12 no bullsh*t tips


Breaking up and letting go of someone you love is hard.

If you’ve been together for any length of time and you find yourself thinking you can’t live without them, a break-up can be devastating.

Love is messy and wonderful and deeply rooted in us when we find the one we think we are meant to be with.

But it can be made all the more troublesome when ties are severed and two people go their separate ways.

When you are dealing with lost love, it can be hard to find your way back from the brink.

Here’s how to let go of someone you love so you can get back to living the life you want.

1) Don’t set a timer.

Some of the best advice we can give is to tell you not to put pressure on yourself to get over someone you love as fast as possible.

These things take time and if you try to force recovery from the loss of love, you might find that you have a harder time making amends.

Let go of any expectations of how long you should grieve your loss and try to focus on the positive things as a way to live in the here and now.

It’s okay to feel all the feelings, thoughts, and emotions that come along with this kind of experience and if you are just rushing to get to the next thing, you’ll miss the opportunity to reconcile everything and you might end up suffering longer because of it.

2) Be kind to yourself.

A lot of people might tell you to take a break and try to do something that is just for you – some people run out and buy a new car or move to a new city or quit their job and start a business they’ve always wanted to start.

When faced with dire straights, it’s easy to be reminded of not having the rest of your life to get things in order.

Losing love is often akin to someone dying. It can require you to be very kind and gentle with yourself.

Start by not listening to the people who are pressuring you to do this a certain way. You can move on in your own way without having to please others.

3) Remove them from your life completely.

In order to allow yourself to process and let go of someone you love, you should take the time to remove your ex-partner from your social media.

Even if you decided to end things on good terms, the sting of seeing what they are up to might be too much for some people.

Rather than leave yourself exposed to the possibility that you might open your phone and find them hanging out with someone else on social media, just block them or reduce notifications from them for the time being.

If things ended badly and you are still reeling in anger and pain, get rid of them completely.

4) Talk it out.

Getting things off your chest will go a long way in helping you process the situation.

Rather than talk to people who are just going to tell you how much better off you are and how he or she was terrible for you anyway, talk to someone who will just let you get your two-cents in. Y

ou need to be able to express your concerns, joy, fear, worry, wonder, and curiosity in a safe space.

Friends and family often tell people that they are better off, but really, it won’t feel like that for a long time.

In order to get over someone, you need to focus in on the feelings you are having and talk them through with someone who will give you the space to do so.

Professional help might be a good option if you don’t have someone in your life who will lend an unbiased ear.

5) Let go of the blame and finger-pointing.

If you want to give yourself a fighting shot, don’t blame yourself or your ex-partner. That doesn’t get you anywhere.

Even if it was your fault, what does feeling bad about yourself accomplish?

If you’ve lost a relationship because of something you did, you’ve suffered enough.

There’s no need to put yourself in a position that leaves you feeling unworthy of love again.

6) Take yourself out of town for a while.

If all else fails, take yourself on a road trip or fly to a different city to see some new things.

Give yourself some quiet time to think and reflect and to get away from the same faces you see all the time.

It’s not about escape. It’s about giving yourself space and time you need to refocus and re-energize for your next move.

7) Severe the ties.

You need to just let them go. Physically. You can’t have contact with them immediately following the split. It’s for your own good.

It’s like when you go on a diet but you tell yourself you’ll just have one more piece of chocolate cake. It can’t be like that. One piece always turns into two.

So cut this thing off at the knees and don’t talk to your old partner for some time, if ever again. You don’t owe them anything here. This is about taking care of you.

8) Let yourself feel whatever you are feeling.

Rather than try to drown your feelings, allow your feelings to overcome you.

So many people find breakups hard because they resist the thoughts and feelings that bubble up, but it can be so much more impactful to just allow yourself to feel the feelings and acknowledge that you are hurting.

When we deny ourselves the chance to explore our feelings and let ourselves feel things for real, that’s when we end up with chocolate all over our faces and our boyfriend or girlfriend’s number back in our phone.

9) Stop daydreaming about what might have been.

Don’t let yourself spend time thinking about what might have been or what could be if you just forgive each other.

Depending on the situation, it might seem easy to be able to go back to the way things were, or if you were willing to forgive them just to go back to normal, but don’t get sucked into the temptation.

You know what happened and there’s no point in wondering what might happen if you got back together. You shouldn’t get back together.

People break up all the time and it turns out to the best thing for both of them.

As humans, we make a decision from places of weakness and then resolve to settle for the results of those decisions.

10) Forgive yourself…and them.

In order to move you, you need to forgive yourself first. It might seem like the best thing to do is to forgive your partner, but this is isn’t about them.

It’s about you and where you are in life right now. Make time to let yourself off the hook before giving any props to someone else.

You might choose not to forgive them, but if nothing else, you need to allow yourself to move on.

You’ll continue to fall down and blame yourself for everything if you don’t give yourself permission to get on with things.

It’s a simple concept, but one that people often get wrong by giving away forgiveness to other people first.

11) Go live your best life.

Rather than sit at home and wallow in your sorrows, get out there and do things that make you feel alive.

A lot of people tailspin out of control after a bad break-up, but if you hit the ground running and focus on yourself first, you’ll be living a great life again in no time.

And remember, your life was pretty darn good before this person came into it, otherwise they wouldn’t have wanted to be a part of your life, right?

Give yourself some credit for what you’ve been able to create in your life and then get back to building it for yourself.

12) Meet new people

No, you don’t have to hop into bed with the first person you meet. Sex won’t help you let go of someone you loved, trust me.

But you do need to get out there and meet new people so you can let yourself understand that there are decent people out there for you to meet.

Sometimes we can get tunnel vision of the person we loved – and we believe that we’ll never find someone as good. But that simply isn’t true.

There’s a whole world of people out there to meet and many of them will make great partners.

I’m not saying you have to fall in love again any time soon.

But just get out there and don’t be afraid to meet someone new. It will be a small step on a long journey of full recovery.

In Conclusion

Love is hard enough without having to deal with its loss. When a relationship ends, it can be devastating to both partners.

If you’ve been jilted, you might have a really hard time getting back on your feet and learning to love again.

What seems to come so naturally sometimes can feel painful and uncomfortable at others, but when you work at recovering from a lost relationship, you have the most success at living a better life in short order.

Keep in mind that you weren’t born with this person on your hip and you won’t die with them on it either.

You are an individual with individual dreams and goals and you can do your own thing again in no time by following the above simple rules for letting go of lost love.

Once you learn these 5 brutal truths about life, you’ll be a much better person (according to Buddhism)


Life is no picnic. All too often, we have to overcome obstacles in order to survive.

Sometimes we try to deny these obstacles because they’re too difficult to bare. But as hard as they are to confront, it’s necessary if we want to live a truly fulfilling and free life.

According to Buddhist philosophy, happiness involves embracing and accepting all the different aspects of life, even if they’re negative. Otherwise we’re turning a blind eye to reality and resisting the natural forces of the universe.

So below, we’re going to go over 5 truths about life Buddhism says we’d all benefit from accepting.

1) Worrying is useless.

Worrying is created in the mind and really doesn’t offer any value to our lives. Will worrying change what’s going to happen? If not, then it’s a waste of time. As Buddhist master Thich Nhat Hanh says below, try to remain in the present moment without putting labels on your “future conditions of happiness.”

“Worrying does not accomplish anything. Even if you worry twenty times more, it will not change the situation of the world. In fact, your anxiety will only make things worse. Even though things are not as we would like, we can still be content, knowing we are trying our best and will continue to do so. If we don’t know how to breathe, smile,and live every moment of our life deeply, we will never be able to help anyone. I am happy in the present moment. I do not ask for anything else. I do not expect any additional happiness or conditions that will bring about more happiness. The most important practice is aimlessness, not running after things, not grasping.”  – Thich Nhat Hanh

2) If we want to be happy, we must see reality for what it is

Buddhism teaches us that we must see reality for what it is if you want to be truly free. Instead of being fixed on our ideas and opinions, we need to stay open and curious to whatever truth arises.

So many of us try to remain perpetually positive by avoiding negative emotions or situations. But we need to confront them and accept them if we are to be truly free. Buddhist master Pema Chödrön says it best:

“We have two alternatives: either we question our beliefs – or we don’t. Either we accept our fixed versions of reality- or we begin to challenge them. In Buddha’s opinion, to train in staying open and curious – to train in dissolving our assumptions and beliefs – is the best use of our human lives.”

3) We need to accept change actively

Everything in life is change. You’re born and you eventually die. The weather changes every day. No matter how you look at life, everything is change. However, many of us attempt to keep things “fixed” and “constant”. But this only goes against the true forces of the universe.

By accepting and embracing change, it gives us enormous liberation and energy to create the lives we want. Buddhist Daisaku Ikeda says that accepting change allows us to take initiative and create positive changes in our lives.

“Buddhism holds that everything is in constant flux. Thus the question is whether we are to accept change passively and be swept away by it or whether we are to take the lead and create positive changes on our own initiative. While conservatism and self-protection might be likened to winter, night, and death, the spirit of pioneering and attempting to realize ideals evokes images of spring, morning, and birth.”  – Daisaku Ikeda

4) The root of suffering is pursuing temporary feelings

So many of us crave those feelings of what we think is happiness. We think happiness includes excitement, joy, euphoria…but these are only temporary feelings. And the constant pursuit of these feelings only turns into suffering because they don’t last.

Instead true happiness comes from inner peace – being content with what you have and who you are.  Yuval Noah Harari describes it perfectly:

“According to Buddhism, the root of suffering is neither the feeling of pain nor of sadness nor even of meaninglessness. Rather, the real root of suffering is this never-ending and pointless pursuit of ephemeral feelings, which causes us to be in a constant state of tension, restlessness and dissatisfaction. Due to this pursuit, the mind is never satisfied. Even when experiencing pleasure, it is not content, because it fears this feeling might soon disappear, and craves that this feeling should stay and intensify. People are liberated from suffering not when they experience this or that fleeting pleasure, but rather when they understand the impermanent nature of all their feelings, and stop craving them.” –  Yuval Noah Harari

5) Meditation is the path to reducing suffering

Meditation teaches us that everything is impermanent, especially our feelings. It teaches us that the present moment is all that exists. And when we truly realize that, we become content and happy, according to Yuval Noah Harari:

“This is the aim of Buddhist meditation practices. In meditation, you are supposed to closely observe your mind and body, witness the ceaseless arising and passing of all your feelings, and realise how pointless it is to pursue them. When the pursuit stops, the mind becomes very relaxed, clear and satisfied. All kinds of feelings go on arising and passing – joy, anger, boredom, lust – but once you stop craving particular feelings, you can just accept them for what they are. You live in the present moment instead of fantasising about what might have been. The resulting serenity is so profound that those who spend their lives in the frenzied pursuit of pleasant feelings can hardly imagine it.” –  Yuval Noah Harari